Van Patten’s “Attack” on Vargas

by Letters to the Editor, May 28, 2010

I have been an advocate for my brother, Aaron Vargas, since learning that he is a victim of sexual abuse. Sexual abuse victims from all over the world have shared their stories with me. As difficult as those stories are to read, they are far more difficult for the victims to share. Some tell me that I am not only speaking out for Aaron, but for them as well, which is why I feel compelled to address the statements that Sgt. Van Patten made on 20/20.

Van Patten attacked Aaron, and survivors of abuse everywhere, by stating that Aaron and his abuser had a consensual relationship that may have gone sour over the molestation.  Not only is that statement ignorant and absurd, it is beyond insulting to victims and their families. It is like stating that a woman who stays in an abusive relationship is consenting to the abuse. If Aaron had gone to the police anytime in adulthood and reported McNeill, I’d imagine that McNeill would have either denied ever abusing Aaron, or he would have stated the same thing as Van Patten – that it was a consensual relationship. If there is such a thing as an afterlife, I’d imagine McNeill is feeling thankful to Van Patten for being his voice and advocate by telling the “other side” of this story.

On another note, I would like to acknowledge the strength and bravery of the men who told their stories of abuse on national television, and also Jamie Specie’s family for telling Jamie’s heartbreaking story. I would like to thank everyone in the community, and beyond, who have been so amazing and supportive. I want abuse survivors to know that there is help out there, and there are people who understand. I have listed several resources on SaveAaron.com.

Mindy Galliani

Santa Rosa, CA

3 Responses to Van Patten’s “Attack” on Vargas

  1. Che Lopez Reply

    May 29, 2010 at 11:10 am

    I was very moved by the 20\20 interview. Having been raised in Fort Bragg my self and still having alot of friends and family there.I wish the FB police would’ve done more to prevent this abuse.

  2. Che Lopez Reply

    May 29, 2010 at 11:20 am

    I realy hope the the FB police will do more to follow up on reports of sexual abuse in the future to ensure the safety of their.

  3. kay fogleman Reply

    October 20, 2010 at 3:49 pm

    Van Patten is disgrace to law enforcement and should have been fired for such a comment. As for Judge Brown and D.A. Beth Norman they are even worse then the police that did NOTHING to help or protect Aaron. To put Aaron in prison for 9 years is the crime here !!!!

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